Have you ever had this happen to you?
I decided to make some lifestyle changes and immediately started recognizing pushback, procrastination, and just plain resistance.
In my case, it showed up after I started research for a new book about what stops people from making changes. I thought about diabetics who don’t make the type of changes that result in better health. I’m more aware of this since my husband has Type 2 diabetes.
But it’s more than just the diabetes issue.
I researched brain health, sleep habits, willpower, nutrition, exercise, triggers that welcome inertia or create changes, and more. Scientific answers… empathetic answers… more questions.
Yesterday I commented to my husband that he takes a totally different route from his office to the kitchen than I do. On the surface, it’s a “so what” thing. But his explanation of why was very interesting. It actually speaks to our way of thinking.
We have a house that has multiple ways to enter each room. In fact, it has a circular flow – start here, go through all the connecting rooms and wind up where you started with no backtracking. He walks from his office, across the entryway, turns right, walks down the hallway and winds up in the kitchen. I usually go from his office, walk through the entry area, then left through the family room which is open to the kitchen. So what’s the point? His contemplative, engineering mind determined his way is just 1 turn, 2 straight legs.
A reminder to Do Something before it’s perfect. Don’t wait until it is (it never will be).
Have you heard about the woman who decided to change her husband? He changed. Now she claims “He’s not the man I married!”
The person who intends to do the changing, too often the wife, might think she means well, working on areas that might really need some improvement. But what’s the motivation to change someone else? To be happier? To make life easier? Isn’t that what we all secretly want? Or is it just to get one’s own way?
Assess, Address and Progress Your Project Capacity
According to the dictionary, capacity is the ability or power to do, experience or understand something. It plays a silent, often overlooked, part in the success of your dreams and goals.
I work with individuals and couples so they better understand their strengths and how to maximize them for personal and business success. I’m putting together a program to reach as many people as possible, and I’ll be posting information regularly.